In four short days my friend Scott will tie the knot. This has been on my mind ever since our Vegas bachelor party a couple weeks ago. It blows my mind I have known my college friends for nearly twenty years. These are people who didn’t know I existed the first 18 years of my life and have had a profound impact on my life the past two decades.
Anyways, I can’t say enough great things about Scott. For those regular readers of my blog, you’ve most certainly heard me mention his name a few times. When I think about what makes Scott so special, it’s his ability to bring people together. He’s truly a uniter and not a divider. This isn’t something that comes naturally to most human beings.
I will admit one of my biggest faults is making quick judgements about people. Sometimes my assumptions are right and sometimes they totally miss the mark. Sometimes I write people off without completely knowing their situation. Perhaps I use cues about them such as how they drive, talk, engage others, dress, mannerisms, etc. My buddy Scott is able to look past these sorts of things and I think it makes him very noble. I’m impressed with the wide range of personality types seen during our weekend in Vegas. It proves his ability to make friends with all sorts of people.
I have many wonderful stories about Scott. We did a lot of things together during the college years and during the 18 months I lived in Portland. Even though we haven’t lived in the same city since 1998, we’ve done a good job remaining connected. And here’s something I can say about any of my friends, I think the follwing is what defines true friends. It doesn’t matter how far the distance or how long since you last spoke, friends pick-up right up where they left off. No awkwardness, no attitude, no confusion.
I know my buddy is anxious to get married. He’s found a special person he wants to spend the rest of his life with. I remember how I felt nearly tens years ago on the cusp of getting married. To me the underlying feeling was love and potential. I felt like doors would open with my wife by side. I’m here to say that has happened. She’s challenged me, she’s made me laugh, made me think really hard, and given me reason to pause. She’s been there for the ups and the downs. This is what marriage is about; it’s a tough gig, but well worth the rewards. Whether it be your spouse or your friends, the bond of a spouse and friends is undeniably strong.